| At the day and time appointed for Solemnization of Matrimony, the Persons
to be married shall come into the body of the Church, or shall be ready
in some proper house, with their friends and neighbors; and there standing
together, the Man on the right hand, and the Woman on the left, the Minister
shall say,
DEARLY beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together this Man and this Woman in holy Matrimony; which is an honourable estate, instituted of God, signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his Church: which holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with his presence and first miracle that he wrought in Cana of Galilee, and is commended of Saint Paul to be honourable among all men: and therefore is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God. Into this holy estate these two persons present come now to be joined. If any man can show just cause, why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak, or else hereafter for ever hold his peace. And also speaking unto the Persons who are to be married, he shall say, I REQUIRE and charge you both, as ye will answer at the dreadful day of judgment when the secrets of all hearts shall be disclosed, that if either of you know any impediment, why ye may not be lawfully joined together in Matrimony, ye do now confess it. For be ye well assured, that if any persons are joined together other than as God's Word doth allow, their marriage is not lawful. The Minister, if he shall have reason to doubt of the lawfulness of the proposed Marriage, may demand sufficient surety for his indemnification: but if no impediment shall be alleged, or suspected, the Minster shall say to the Man, JOHN Wilt thou have this Woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live? The Man shall answer, I will. Then shall the Minster say unto the Woman, JANE Wilt thou have this Man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love him, comfort him, honour, and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live? The Woman shall answer, I will. Then shall the Minister say, Who giveth this Woman to be married to this Man? Then shall they give their troth to each other in this manner. The Minister, receiving the Woman at her father's or friend's hands, shall cause the Man with his right hand to take the Woman by her right hand, and to say after him as followeth. I John take thee Jane to my wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth. Then shall they loose their hands; and the Woman with her right hand taking the Man by his right hand, shall likewise say after the Minister, I Jane take thee John to my wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth. Then shall they again loose their hands; and the Man shall give unto the Woman a Ring in this wise: the Minister taking the ring shall deliver it unto the Man, to put it upon the fourth finger of the Woman's left hand. And the Man holding the Ring there, and taught by the Minister, shall say, WITH this Ring I thee wed: In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen. And, before delivering the Ring to the Man, the Minister may say as followeth, BLESS, O Lord, this Ring, that he who gives it and she who wears it may abide in thy peace, and continue in they favour, unto their life's end; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. Then, the Man, leaving the Ring upon the fourth finger of the Woman's left hand, the Minister shall say, Let us pray. Then shall the Minister and People, still standing, say the Lord's Prayer. OUR Father, who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done, On Earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen. Then shall the Minister add, O ETERNAL God, Creator and Preserver of all mankind, Giver of all spiritual grace, the Author of everlasting life; Send thy blessing upon these thy servants, this Man and this Woman, whom we bless in thy Name; that they, living faithfully together, may surely perform and keep the vow and covenant betwixt them made, (whereof this Ring given and received is a token and pledge,) and may ever remain in perfect love and peace together, and live according to thy laws; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. Then the Minister may add, O GOD, who hast so consecrated the state of Matrimony that in it is rep resented the spiritual marriage and unity betwixt Christ and his Church; Look mercifully upon these thy servants, that they may love, honour, and cherish each other, and so live together in faithfulness and patience, in wisdom and true godliness, that their home may be a haven of blessing and of peace; through the same Jesus Christ our Lord, who liveth and reigneth with thee and the Holy Spirit ever, one God, world without end. Amen. Then shall the Minister join their right hands together, and say, Those whom God hath joined together let no man put asunder. Then shall the Minister speak unto the company. Pastor: And now, let us participate in another symbolic act. Life is
full of many such actions that speak to us of a deeper meaning that we
cannot always put into words. You have used ancient symbols in this wedding
service—the exchange of rings, the clasping of hands, the bearing of flowers.
By such things you act instead of speak in regard to your promises. Now
each of you will take a candle. And together you will light one larger
candle. This is a vivid reminder that in true Christian marriage our lives
are merged, even as we remain individuals.This is a symbolic prayer that
God will enhance your own personhood and bless your uniqueness as individuals:
but that God will also make of your hands ONE hand...of your hearts ONE
heart...and of your lives ONE life.
Know now before you go further, that since your lives have crossed in this life you have formed ties between each other. As you seek to enter this state of matrimony you should strive to make real, the ideals which give meaning to both this ceremony and the institution of marriage. With full awareness, know that within this you are not only declaring your intent to be wed before your friends and family, but you speak that intent also to your creative higher powers. The promises made today and the ties that are bound here greatly strengthen your union; they will cross the years and lives of each soul's growth. Do you still seek to enter this ceremony? Yes, We Seek to Enter. .
[Groom's Name], Will you cause her pain? I May Is that you intent? No [Bride's Name], Will you cause him pain? I may Is that you intent? No *To Both* Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it? Yes And so the binding is made. Join your hands *First cord is draped across the bride and grooms hands* [Bride's Name], Will you share his laughter? Yes [Groom's Name], Will you share her laughter? Yes *To Both* Will both of you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other? Yes And so the binding is made. *Second chord is draped across the couples hands* [Bride's Name], Will you burden him? I may Is that you intent? No [Groom's Name], Will you burden her? I may Is that your intent? No *To Both* Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union? Yes And so the binding is made. *Drape third chord across the couples hands* [Bride's Name], will you share his dreams? Yes [Groom's Name], will you share her dreams? Yes *To Both* Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes? Yes And so the binding is made. *Drape fourth chord across the couples hands* [Groom's Name], will you cause her anger? I may Is that you intent? No [Bride's Name], will you cause him anger? I may Is that your intent? No *To Both* Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union? We Will And so the binding is made. *Drape fifth chord across the couples hands* [Bride's Name], Will you honor him? I will [Groom's Name], Will you honor her? I will *To Both* Will you seek to never give cause to break that honor? We shall never do so And so the binding is made. *Drape sixth chord across the couples hands* *Tie chords together while saying:* The knots of this binding are not formed by these chords but instead by your vows. Either of you may drop the chords, for as always, you hold in your own hands the making of breaking of this union. *Once chords are tied together they are removed and placed on altar* FORASMUCH as John and Jane have consented together in holy wedlock, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, and thereto have given and pledged their troth, each to the other, and have declared the same by giving and receiving a Ring, and by joining hands; I pronounce that they are Man and Wife, In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen. |